We all want a secure future for our family and key to this is financial planning. Most of us have a weekly or monthly budget in place, and know that if we stick to the budget there will be enough money in the bank to cover the bills.
Holidays, Christmas, car repairs and things like the kid’s school uniforms are also normally budgeted for, many people save for these items. However, studies show that many of us do not have any money in reserve for unexpected, yet common, events like serious illness, the loss of a job or the death of a close family member. These events cause a lot of pain, stress and heartache, which is often made far worse because these events put the family under extreme financial stress as well.
The wisdom of making funeral plans now
Nobody really wants to think about these awful events, so there is a tendency for people not to put the necessary measures to help them to cope financially in place. This is understandable and only natural.
However, ignoring the possibility is not a wise approach especially when it is relatively easy to make sure that your family has the money they need to cope. For most people the best approach is to invest in insurance policies to provide coverage in the event of a job loss, serious illness or a death in the family.
Buying these kinds of insurance will make a huge difference to your family. Provided you buy the right level of coverage, you and your family will have the cash you need even in the most difficult of situations.
Life insurance to cover the cost of a funeral
Life insurance is important and the right policy can provide you with serious illness coverage too. That way should you or your spouse become terminally ill your family will have access to funds to help you to cope with the additional costs of being ill and to be able to continue to enjoy life and spend precious time as a family.
With the price of funerals, continuing to soar funeral planning is becoming increasingly important. Most families do not much money sitting in their bank accounts. Currently, the average cost of a funeral, in the UK, is £8,000, and many expect that cost to continue to rise. As a result, many families get into long term financial difficulties when they have to find the money to pay for a funeral.
Put aside an emergency funeral fund
Saving regularly, so that you have a substantial emergency fund available is another way to take care of your family’s financial future. However, this approach is only a good idea if you can resist the temptation to dip into your emergency funds to buy a dream holiday or car.
I appreciate that this is a depressing subject, but, as you can see, not planning financially for these awful life events has serious consequences for you and your children. Therefore, it really is worth sitting down and addressing the issue of how you are going to provide financially for your family in the event of a job loss, terminal illness or death.
For most Christians hymns for funerals are important. They are a part of the service that allows everyone to raise their voices together in praise of god and remembrance of the person whose funeral it is.
If you are organising a funeral the chances are you are going to be the one who is asked to choose the hymns that will be sung. Do not worry if you are not a churchgoer yourself because you will recognise many of the hymns anyway, they are very much part of the fabric of many Western cultures, so you will have heard many of them over the years.
Even if you have not the person who is conducting the service will help you. Alternatively, if you prefer, refer to a member of the family who is himself or herself a regular church or chapel attendee.
Popular Christian hymns for funerals
Another option is to go online and listen to excerpts from the most popular funeral hymns. That way you will definitely be familiar with them before you have to choose some.
Amongst the most popular hymns that are sung at funerals are:
Abide With Me
The Lord’s My Shepherd
All Things Bright and Beautiful
The Lords My Shepherd
Guide me O thou great redeemer
Love divine all loves excelling
The day thou gavest Lord is ended
The Old Rugged Cross
Morning Has Broken
Lord of all hopefulness
You can find most of these on lyrics sites too, which will help you to find something that is appropriate to your loved one. Ideally you want the words to reflect the type of person they where, and their religious beliefs.
If you know the congregation is going to mainly be made up of people who are not used to singing these hymns it is usually well worth taking up the option of paying for a small choir. The hymns will sound so much better if you take this approach than they would if you and your friends try to sing something they are not familiar with from a funeral song sheet.
Even if the congregation is familiar with the hymns, you may still want to hire a choir to help them along. Funerals are very upsetting, so it can sometimes be difficult to sing as you would normally. You just not cannot breath in the same you would if you were not trying to hold back the tears. That means that voices will not carry so well, and it will be harder for the congregation to do the hymns justice.
Links to the best hymns for funerals
Here are some links to the best hymns for funerals that we could find. As you would expect they mostly cover the Christian tradition. However, not all of them are religious in nature, so they can also work well for a secular funeral service. Some would also work well for a humanist funeral:
Your favourite hymns for funerals
If you have favourite, funeral hymns please tell us about them in the comments. We would especially like to hear from you if you can suggest hymns and songs that would work well for the funerals of those who do not necessarily follow a specific religion.
It would be nice to hear from people of all faiths about the songs that are used at the services they attend.
On this site, we like to cover all funeral traditions and customs. If you would like to write a short guest post explaining your family or faith funeral traditions please leave a comment below, so we can get in touch.
When it comes to buying life insurance there is a bewildering choice of policies out there. Finding the right policy for you and your family can be done, but requires a little research.
This is an overview of the main types of insurance. The two main types of life insurance are term or whole life insurance.
Term life insurance
Term life insurance only pays out if you die, but cannot be traded in for cash at any point. This is the most common form of life insurance
Whole life insurance
A whole life policy does have a cash value and can be surrendered for money should you get into financial difficulties. If you do not surrender your policy before you die, your family will receive a payout in the event of your death.
Which is best a life or term policy?
The debate over term versus whole life insurance goes on. Some experts recommend that if you are under 40 years old and do not have a family disposition for a life threatening illness, go for term insurance, which offers a death benefit but no cash value.
Whole life offers both a death benefit and cash value, but is much more expensive. The Wall Street Journal has reported that half of all cash value policies are surrendered within the first seven years, making the coverage very expensive because commissions and fees limit the cash value in the early years.
With a traditional life insurance policy, the premiums stay the same over the life of the policy. The policy stays in effect until your death, even after you have paid all the premiums, which can often be paid up within a certain amount of time. A cash reserve is built up, but you have no control over how it is invested.
There are some other kinds of life insurance available. Here is a quick overview of the most common ones.
Variable Life insurance policies
Variable life polices build up a cash reserve that you can invest in any of the choices offered by the insurance company. The value of your cash reserve depends on how well those investments are doing.
Universal Life insurance policies
You can vary the amount of your premium with Universal life insurance policies by using part of your accumulated earnings to cover part of the premium cost. You can also vary the amount of the death benefit. For this flexibility, you will need to pay higher administrative fees. Check out www.thatsinsurance.com for more details.
Buying enough coverage
As with any policy, you need to think about what you are buying and what you are getting for your money. The idea of life insurance is to make sure that the costs of your funeral are covered and that the needs of any family you leave behind are covered.
You need to understand the details of the policy you are buying. The ThatsInsurance site is a good place to educate yourself. Not only are policies compared on this site, the details of what the various terms and jargon mean are all explained.
In many countries when someone dies, some sort of wake is held. The form of the wake depends on the religion of the family involved and the customs of the country in which they live. In most cases, the wake involves friends and family who knew the deceased staying with the family and the body of the deceased.
The customs surrounding wakes are changing. For example, in Spain, the custom up to a few years ago was to sit with the body in the home of the deceased. Today, the body is taken to a funeral home, and the family may take a break to go home and eat. In years gone by, neighbours would have brought food to the family’s home.
Most funeral customs involve food in some form. In America, people bring food when they visit the family before the funeral. Usually the wake that is held afterwards also involves food for the guests. In the UK there is normally a wake held after the funeral again food is normally served.
Preparing food for a funeral
Given the importance of food at a funeral, we thought we would briefly cover the subject.
Follow the customs
The first thing you need to do is to bear in mind and follow the customs of your family and country. In some countries, there are traditional dishes that are served at this time and other foods are forbidden. It is easy to cause offence by not following these customs.
Food for everyone
You need to think about who is attending the funeral and provide food that is suitable for everyone to eat. Bear in mind people who are suffering from food allergies and intolerance. These days it is wise to avoid serving food that contains nuts.
Think about the age of the people that will be attending the funeral too. A buffet works well for most funerals, but if a lot of the people that will be attending are very elderly getting to the buffet and serving themselves could be difficult. In that situation, it might be a good idea to hire a waiter or serve sandwiches that can more easily be passed around.
Do not leave yourself too much to do
Providing a funeral tea can be a lot of work. The funeral is going to be a busy and stressful day for you anyway, so it is important not to leave yourself too much to do.
Enlist the help of friends and family and try to prepare as much as you can in advance. Often the best approach is to buy most of the food from your local supermarket rather than make it all yourself. This is helpful in another way. You never know for sure how many people will attend the funeral tea. If you buy some of the food in it is possible to keep some in the fridge to get out later and serve more people as they arrive and there is no waste.
Every culture treats their dead in a different way. The way the dead are treated has evolved because of local beliefs and sometimes out of necessity. Here we are going to consider the American practice of embalming the dead. How this practice has evolved to be the norm in America demonstrates what we mean.
Most Americans do not realize that how they treat their dead makes them different from nearly every other culture in the world. By looking at the work of the oldest embalming school in the US, The National College of Mortuary Science, we can get a better understanding of why the dead are embalmed in the US, but not in other countries.
Since 1882, generation after generation of mortician’s in training have enrolled at the NCMS to become experts in the American rituals of death and burial. American Funeral Directors know that their clients want the dead to look as they did in life. They want to see their loved one in a very natural peaceful state.
In the US embalmers work not just to disguise the power of death.
They work to stop its inevitable destruction of the body in its tracks.
Using modern embalming techniques the decay can be stopped several years. The body can be preserved by using several gallons of a chemical preservative called formaldehyde. This practice of routinely embalming the dead would be taboo in many other cultures. Even in mortuary school, embalming is practically a ritual with clearly defined steps.
The steps of embalming explained
First, the body is cleaned and prepared or laid out in a natural repose. Natural and proper mouth closure is crucial to get a natural expression.
Next, the embalmers locate the blood vessel into which they will pump the formaldehyde solution. As the solution works its way through the body, it displaces the blood. The blood escapes through an incision made in a vein, usually in the jugular vein. Almost immediately, the corpse begins to harden. This may seem like a process dreamed up by a mad scientist but in reality, the practice has deep historicaland religious roots.
Why embalming became necessary in America
In America, the motivation behind the practice of embalming the dead is not from a quest for immortality. Rather it stems from what is perhaps the nation’s greatest tragedy – the Civil War. When the war started modern embalming techniques had just been invented.
During the war, hundreds of thousands of young men died on the battlefield. Often, they were far from home when they died. For the first time soldiers families could request that the bodies of their sons and husbands be preserved and returned for burial.
There were many who welcomed the new technique as a godsend. For many Christians embalming is a perfect fit with their religious beliefs. Many believe that the body and the spirit will be reunited at the resurrection.
Embalming is just one of the diverse rituals that we practice to honour the dead. It is also part of our attempt to make sense of and cope with death.
Funerals are something that most people do not really want to think about. Of course, this is natural. However, we have to accept that at some stage we are all going to die, so it is very important to plan our funeral.
A very convenient way of doing this is to buy a funeral plan. Doing so allows you to think about your funeral in advance. It forces you to ask and answer the questions that you would normally avoid. In addition, it gives you the chance to easy for your funeral in advance, and spread the cost.
The vast majority of the time buying a funeral plan is a good move. However, there are a few things that you need to bear in mind when buying one. Here we look at the main things you need to consider.
Buying the right type of funeral plan
The first step to determining which funeral plan is right for you is to understand the different types that available.
The main types are:
Prepaid funeral plans
With this kind of funeral plan, you pay for your funeral in advance. What is covered by the plan should be laid out clearly within the policy and you should understand this before you purchase. Every policy is different so it is very important to read the small print carefully.
Insurance based plans
Another increasingly popular form of funeral plans are insurance-based plans. With this kind of plan, you are normally buying a whole life policy, but the insurance package also covers the cost of your funeral. Again, how much you pay and how much coverage you get varies from company to company.
Sometimes these plans are called over fifties plans or no health check plans.
What is typically covered?
As we already mentioned exactly what is covered varies from company to company. There is a huge variation between different policies and the different firms.
What is covered is also affected by the country in which you live and the funeral customs in that country. For this reason, it is hard for this site to cover the subject in much detail.
However, over the coming months we do plan to write some more in-depth articles about funeral plan coverage in all of the largest English speaking countries, so watch this space.
The vast majority of funeral plans normally provide some level of cover for the following expenses:
The cost of picking up the deceased from the place of death
The cost of preparing the body for burial or cremation
The cost of the coffin or casket
The cost of transporting the deceased to the place of burial or cremation
Some plans also provide cover for the transfer of relatives to the place of burial or cremation. Often, these plans also cover the cost of keeping the body in the funeral home for a short period before the funeral can take place.
A funeral plan is basically a form of insurance policy As with any policy take your time to shop around and find the best deal.
Dealing with a death in the family is always difficult. Even more so if you are on your own without a spouse or children to help you to deal with your grief and make the funeral arrangements.
Often someone in this situation will turn to his or her friends for help. If you should find yourself being asked by a friend to help arrange a funeral this is how we suggest you approach what could be for you a delicate or daunting situation.
Do not take over completely
In this situation, you need to be careful not to inadvertently take over completely. Your friend needs to be the one to make the key decisions.
By all means make suggestions, but try to ensure that it is your friend who decides on the type of service and details like whether there will be flowers and what will happen after the funeral. Asking about the wishes of the person who has died can often provide answers to the type of funeral that needs to be arranged. It acts as a catalyst, which can motivate them and keep them on track.
Often all your friend needs is someone to assist them. They are really looking for someone who will make sure that nothing is forgotten. Often those who are grieving do not feel in complete control and are frightened that they will forget something important. Often having you there to monitor progress is what they need the most.
Make a list
As with any complex task, it is best to make a list of what needs to be done. If you make the list on a spreadsheet, you can put the date each task needs to be done by then sort your list by date. That way the most urgent tasks will be at the top of the list.
As you, complete each task tick it off. You can print the list off and cross things off as you do them or do that on the spreadsheet. Even relatively simple tasks like putting together a funeral order of service or ordering the flowers should be on the list to ensure nothing is forgotten.
If you are at all unsure about what needs to be done for a funeral ask someone who knows. The best sources of information are funeral directors and the person who will conduct the service.
Offer practical support
As well as helping to make the funeral arrangements offer other practical support if your friend needs it. For example, cook them a meal or walk their dog.
You could take phone calls when they are resting or just need a break from talking to other people. If your friend does not have appropriate clothes for the funeral take them shopping for them. Perhaps your friend has young children, in which case you could help with meals or playtime.
Do not take on too much
Our last piece of advice is to be careful not to take on more than you can handle. From the start, try to enlist the help of others, so you have the option to delegate tasks should you need to. Speak to your friend before doing this to make sure they are comfortable with your asking these individuals for help.
A casket or coffin is a final resting place for a loved one, but it can be much more than that. It can be an expression of pride in remembrance one of love. They can even celebrate a loved one’s interests and passions during their life.
Caskets come in a range of colours and styles
Coffins and caskets come in many different colours and shapes. They are made from a wide variety of materials. Through a combination of good design high quality materials and workmanship, you can end up with a beautiful final resting place for your loved ones.
What determines how much a casket will cost?
There are six factors, which determine how much you are going to pay for your coffin.
- The materials used
2. The size of the coffin
3. The workmanship involved in making the casket
4. The degree of personalisation
5. Where you buy the casket
6. Your choice of materials
Wooden caskets are the perfect choice for many families. The natural warmth of a wood casket can evoke memories of time spent close to nature. It has the beauty and craftsmanship of a piece of fine furniture.
The type of tree used is an important factor when it comes to price. Woods that are more exotic cost more, but they look stunning.
It is up to the family to decide on the right finish. The type of wood used to some extent dictates which the best finish for a wooden coffin is.
For those with a big budget copper or steel coffin is an option. These resist the elements, so are becoming increasingly popular. Stainless steel is also rust resistant.
You can also choose the interior finish of the coffin. Again, the materials used will affect the price as well as the way the coffin looks. Most people choose high quality yet lightweight materials because they look nice, but are not extremely expensive.
We all come in different shapes and sizes and over the past few decades the average height and girth of the population has grown. For this reason, the best funeral homes and directors offer a wide range of different size coffins and caskets. These larger sizes require more labour and material to build and naturally come in at a higher price.
The workmanship involved
How skilled the craftsmen and women have to be to create the coffin also affects the price. Creating beautiful round shaped lids and corners take longer than it does to create caskets with simple shapes and square corners require less time to make so they cost far less.
Hardware designs range from simple fixed handles to coffins with handles that are shaped and handcrafted. These design elements combine to create a distinctive style for the coffin, and the more elaborate the design the more work goes into it, so the more the casket costs.
The degree of personalization
The interiors can also be personalized with custom embroidery. Adding symbols to make the casket more relevant and personal to the honourees is another way to personalize a casket.
It is also possible to produce beautiful sculptural corners that celebrate anything from a love of nature to a long career. Themed hardware can also celebrate the person’s career or love of a certain hobby or interest.
Where you buy the casket
The last thing that affects the choice of caskets you get and how much you pay is who you buy from. Prices vary widely depending on which funeral director you use.
How much life insurance or life assurance you need depends largely on your personnel circumstances, for example whether you’ve got a mortgage or children. Here we look at some of the factors you need to consider.
The amount of life insurance cover you need depends on the needs of your dependants. It also depends on how much you can afford to pay out each month. Here are the main items you buy coverage for:
Cover your mortgage payments
Your mortgage repayment is normally your biggest outgoing. If you are the main source of income for your family, your loved ones will not be able to easily take responsibility for it should you die.
You may have already made some provision for it to be repaid in the event of your death. Some lenders may have requested some form of life security on the loan in any case. But, now is the time to double check that you have enough cover. You need to make sure that your existing policy covers capital as well as interest repayments on the mortgage.
Coverage for all other loans
Most of us have other loans, credit card debts and car loans. Once again, you need to ensure that these debts are covered in the event of your death.
These two are obvious, but the elements covered below are less so.
Education and childcare expenses
Should something happen to you it is important that your child’s life continues as near as possible the same way. If they are currently in private education, you will want that education to continue. For your child being able to stay in the same school and close to their friends will make a huge difference to them as well as the quality of their education.
If you want your family to continue to enjoy a similar quality of life after you are gone it is important that your policy provide them with some form of income. Your partner will eventually be able to find work, but it is hard to do immediately after the death of your life partner.
Income replacement protection will give your partner the breathing space they need to find a job or re-educate themselves. It buys them time to get over their grief and adjust to having to look after the family on their own.
Critical illness coverage
Given the fact that close to 40% of us will at some point end up suffering from cancer or another serious illness critical illness coverage is well worth having. This kind of coverage pays out some of the policy amount should you be diagnosed with a terminal illness.
Having access to this money can help you to cover the additional costs of transport to and from the hospital and other additional practical expenses. It also gives you the chance to enjoy quality time with your family perhaps a last dream holiday.